I have been delaying publishing this post for months, and frankly, wasn’t sure I was going to publish it all, but after a candid conversation with my son, I knew I had to say something. During one of those rare car moments alone, my teenager asked me, with thinly masked repulsion, if feminists were, “ya […]
On Permission
It’s a well-established truism that we are our own worst enemies. We hold ourselves to standards we would never expect our friends and families to uphold. How much advice do we dole out, but fail to take for ourselves? For example, we tell our friends to love their bodies, flaws and all, yet chastise our own […]
On Compassion: It Might Just Save The World
I just finished reading this wonderful book, Tattoos on the Heart, a collection of stories and insights from a Jesuit priest who runs a gang intervention program in the poorest neighborhoods of Los Angeles. This is book that gets to the core of compassion and unconditional love. This is a book whose wisdom goes far beyond the streets of LA […]
On Being Flexible: Part 2- Relationships
I read somewhere recently that while relationships should ideally be a 50:50 give-and-take, we can’t expect this to be the case all of the time. There may be times when one partner needs to give 80 to the other’s 20, or vice versa. In the case of a friendship, maybe one person is going through a really […]
On Being Flexible…Or, “Maybe So, Maybe Not, We Shall See”
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, not the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” –Charles Darwin How we respond to change is not only essential to our survival, but paramount to our happiness. We humans are creatures of habit and routine. We like to know in advance what’s […]
On Jealousy
I’ll get straight to the point of this post: JEALOUSY IS TOXIC. As someone who has been on both sides of Envy Street, I can say with confidence, nothing good will ever come from jealousy. No one benefits. On the contrary, everyone involved suffers, and here’s why: First, jealousy is based on our misguided perceptions of […]
